If there is anything that can’t be excused from a relationship, it’s jealousy. Some might argue that the presence of trust in a love relationship makes jealousy an alien word. However the lack of jealousy in its entirety is a very big danger sign. In other words, a reasonable degree of jealousy is needed for a relationship to thrive; because it is a sign that your partner loves you and loves you exclusively. However, this does not remove the dangers of jealousy. Relationship with an above average jealous boyfriend is more threatening to not just the life of the partner, the love life of the partner and the health of the relationship, but also not a good foundation to lay for your family, in the event that you intend to let this love relationship lead to marital bliss. Having a jealous boyfriend can be a serious issue. How then can you know that your intending partner has the tendency of been a jealous boyfriend?
Below I outline traits of a jealous boyfriend. If you see these traits in any man or guy or lad, know for sure that if he gets into a relationship, he will be a jealous boyfriend.
1. The use of the ‘I’ word:
Anyone who uses the “I” word constantly thrive to build everything around him and feels that it is for him that everything exists. This suggests that in his mind he feels everything should be about him and for his pleasure. If you get into a relationship with this type of person, be certain that he is a jealous boyfriend and will not entertain sharing the love of his life with any other person or thing on the face of the earth.
2. Over possessiveness:
Anyone who is over possessive has the tendency of been a jealous boyfriend or girlfriend. I am not saying been possessive is wrong, at least been possessive to an extent is very healthy. However, when one is over possessive it means he does not want to share his property and will not entertain that his property is used by any person. If you get into a relationship with this type of person, he will automatically count you as one of his property and will not entertain that you are at the services of someone else. If you get into a relationship with him, be certain that he will be a jealous boyfriend.
3. Over protectiveness:
When one is over protective of his properties or his family members, especially his sisters, mother or cousins, be certain that if you get into a relationship with him, he will be a jealous boyfriend. Why? Because in his mind he is programmed to believe that he is the only one with the mental, physical and otherwise means to protect you, and that while the outside world is dangerous, he is a safe zone for you. Be careful about people with this trait. They will kill your social life and drain you emotionally. He is a jealous boyfriend in the making.
4. Number of friends:
People who tend to be jealous boyfriends don’t have plenty friends around them. I am not implying that folks with little or no friends are jealous folks. However, people naturally drift away from guys who have the tendencies to be a jealous boyfriend because they don’t want the troubles and stress associated with been close to him. They also don’t want to be controlled by a tyrant lord. If you get into a relationship with this jealous boyfriend, be certain that you will be controlled and subjected to emotional stress. He is a jealous boyfriend.
5. Female Sibling’s have no friends:
A jealous boyfriend exercise authority over his siblings, creating the impression that the world is tough and wicked and constantly wants to take advantage of innocent, naive girls like her. He gives her the impression that she needs to limit the number of friends she has and that if they don’t come through him or win his endorsement, she might have herself in the wrong hands. If you check carefully, you’d realize that these girls might never even have any guy that won the endorsement of her brother. If you date this guy, be certain he is a jealous boyfriend; be certain that you won’t have friends or even blood-related family members around you, since he will see them as bad and harmful to your relationship.
6. Number of male friends:
He distances his sisters, mother and other female figures in his life from male figures on the outside. If you date this man be certain that you might not even be close to your blood brothers or male relatives. It will be all about him. To him he is the good guy and others are bad or highly unnecessary. If you date him be certain that he will be a jealous boyfriend.
7. Conspiracy theories to cause fear:
If he constantly talks about other people been after you to cause harm and constantly have theories or happenings that he can quote to backup his claim, especially when they are to his advantage, promote his dominance and over bearing nature over you, know for sure that this is a jealous boyfriend.
8. Closeness to relations outside family:
Some cases of jealousy could be very acute. Certain individuals don’t even crave closeness between their nuclear family and extended family. They don’t entertain closeness between their partner and their extended family. Some feel that their family members are in continued competition to be better than them and for their price, he thinks they will take his girlfriend from him or turn his girlfriend or nuclear family away from him. If you sense these, know for sure that you are dealing with a jealous boyfriend.
9. Temperament:
Anger and having a harsh temperament says a lot about been a jealous boyfriend. This does not imply that everyone with anger issues is a jealous boyfriend, but take note of this attitude. It is indicative of a jealous boyfriend.
10. Bullies:
This is a trait of someone who will be a jealous boyfriend. If he bullies his sisters, partners and friends, then you can conclude that he is a jealous boyfriend. This is because he tends to assume that there is a certain hate for him, certain revolt against him. This is connected to an extent to his complex, the assumption that he is not perfect and that his lady or girlfriend might for any reason not like him or want closeness with him. Thus, in order to bring them back to order, the bully antics.
11. Introvert:
An introvert is someone who is rid of social life, who spends more of his time alone, not necessarily busy, but might mostly be deeply thinking or been idle. When this person falls in love, he constantly wants the girlfriend or boyfriend calling him, because he or she already has enough time to himself. To an extent, or subconsciously, he feels since he has enough time to his disposal, then the girlfriend must be using her excess time to the pleasure of another guy. The way the mind works? Lol. He assumes you must share your time with him. If you are dating someone like this then know you have with you a jealous boyfriend. This also does not imply that anyone who is an introvert is a potential jealous boyfriend, but this could be a very strong leading to the fact that he is a jealous boyfriend.
12. Low self esteem:
Anyone with low self esteem is an attention seeker. She or he feels he is least perfect and constantly seeks your approval. If for any reason you don’t approve of him or her, or you don’t call her or text her or she sees you with lots of friends of the opposite sex, he’d in response flare up, nag, get angry or rant about you and why you are not close to him or her, or how you are cheating on him or her, or why and how you don’t love her or him. If this is your partner, know that he or she is a jealous boyfriend or jealous girlfriend.
13. Isolating from outside world on first encounter:
One thing that jealous boyfriends hate is rivalry or contentions to his authority and sovereignty. If he loves you and has chosen you, be sure he wants to keep you to himself forever. Thus from first encounter you will notice his trying to isolate you from the outside world. If you are out for dinner, he won’t even want the host or ushers shaking hands with you, he won’t want the waiter speaking with you or even exchanging menus with you. Everything must come through him and must be by him and for him. Only a jealous boyfriend will take isolationism to heights even North Korea has never seen.
14. Trust pet talk:
A jealous boyfriend will always talk about trust, discretely warning about why he trusts you and why you must trust him in return. He talks about why the world is constantly working to destroy the relationship and ruin the love that he has for her. He gives her the impression that her friends or family members are jealous of her, maybe because they are not in a relationship or because they don’t have a man as quality as him. The psychological effect of this is that you are intimidated into loving him. You don’t want to break up with him, you want to always do things that please him and are according to his will. When he has you there he then begins to change and or redefine the rules concerning love and trust and relationship, rules that only suit his interest, meets his purpose and satisfies his pleasure. If this is the guy you intend to date be certain you have a jealous boyfriend in your life.
15. Imposition of his views:
A jealous boyfriend will always want you to adhere to his views about love and life. You will notice that he mostly shuts down his friends, sisters and girlfriend. He does this either obviously or discretely.
16. They assume things are for their pleasure:
If you notice that he carries the impression that things are mostly for his pleasure, things were created for him and without him nothing should glow. Know that this is a jealous boyfriend. Trump is a jealous boyfriend. Many with this traits act discretely, especially they that have mastered the art of deception; you’ll notice that if things don’t work out as they expect they flare up or express displeasure, sometimes anger, depending on the exposure and character of the person in question.
17. They never have lasting relationships:
This is indicative of a jealous boyfriend because everyone he has dated has got frustrated by his over bearing attitudes and manifestations of jealousy. They have broken up with him and have moved on. If you get into a relationship with him you will also experience this hardship and emotional trauma. You will try to make the relationship work but it won’t, and then you will be forced to break up and move on. This does not necessarily mean that everyone that has had several brief relationships are jealous boyfriends, but that on its on is a very important pointer.
18. They are arrogant:
Naturally when someone is arrogant, he expects that the world bows to him. He expects that it is his will that prevails regardless of the circumstances in question. He sees himself as the alpha and omega, and that if the situation does not give him glory, then it must not occur. He is arrogant. If you notice this in him, and go ahead to date him, one of the things you will experience is that he isn’t a team player, does not care about what partners, subordinate, superiors and competitors feel. You will notice that to him, it must be about him regardless of situations. If you date him get ready not to be involved with a partner but a boss. He is a jealous boyfriend.
19. Shape shifters:
If you date someone in a relationship who gets angry but does not show it, who does something offensive or annoying, maybe wicked, but appears sad, as though he is the victim, as though he earned being pitied, know that he has the high potential of been a jealous boyfriend. The problem with this is that you can’t tell when he is happy or when he is angry, you can’t tell when you are right or when you are wrong. He manipulates your mind with this attitude and makes you feel you are constantly wrong and he is eternally right. With this attitude he masks his jealous acts, behaviours and pushes to isolate and bring you under his control.
20. When he is your source:
Most jealous men or men who have the tendencies to been a jealous boyfriend also want to be your absolute source. The rule of nature is that whoever feeds you controls you, just like he who pays the piper dictates the tune. For him to have your complete submission and devotion and for him to have the impression that you won’t be distracted by your wealth and begin to think that you can do without him, or be distracted by some man outside his realm, what he does is to incapacitate you. Take away any source of livelihood from you so that you can completely depend on him and trust in him, and see him as your alpha and omega and not look unto another man for feeding and emotional healing. If you notice this in his family or with his friends around him, or his girlfriend or bed-mate, know for sure that this is a jealous boyfriend. The danger with this is that if the relationship does not work out, the girlfriend in question ends up frustrated with life, she has no one to look up to and finds it difficult moving on with her life, after spending long times depending on him.
21. Emotionally stressed:
After experiencing jealous people, their friends or the victim of these men are usually emotionally stressed, weak, tired, and wounded, without opinions, intimidated and afraid about moving on without the aide and guidance of the jealous boyfriend. If you see ladies in this shape, check out their boyfriends or ex-boyfriends, he mostly is the source of the emotional trauma.
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